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Never too late to take a different road

February 21, 2017

No matter where you are in the world - summer is either coming to an end or spring is about to start- either way a new season is starting and the world around us is to starting to change once again.  This could be a perfect time for you to consider what you really would want to be doing in life right now and what is stopping you.  The road you are on could be steady and safe and filled with family, friends and love. But, is there something you have thought about trying but didn't have the courage to do it?   A career change?  A start of a new fitness program? Maybe even starting a blog?  Have your friends all told you that you were really good at something and you could make a business or career out of it? What is stopping you? 

We so easily fall into our routine and it's predictable and keeps up moving from one day to another.  When did we stop living life to the fullest, full of all the adventure we wanted.  Waking up with excitement of a new day and new beginnings - stepping out of routine.

If you can't make the big change right now, why not start small. Research what would you need to do to adapt the journey you are currently on.  Is there anything you can do while still continuing on your current path?   Sometimes that's all it takes, the first step on that new road.

I know of 65 year-old woman finishing her Masters,  stay at home moms who have become fitness consultants and a corporate executive with a love for nature, started volunteering at a park. Small or big steps - you can always change the road you are on.  Supermoms, take the risk, have the courage, look at the road ahead and decide do you want to stay on the current course or venture off to a new horizon

Not everyone is okay even when they say they are

February 14, 2017

When you see someone you know the conversation normally goes, "Hi, how are you",  "Okay" is the response and on we go.   Do we really listen to the answer and give some thought about if the person really is okay especially if they don't look it.  Or is it more just a part of the busy life we all have and don't really pay attention?  Let me give you one reason to sometimes stop, look at the person and when they say "I'm okay"  ask yourself, do they really seem okay.

Picking up my son from school I ran into another mom and got into the normal picking up kids conversation  - hello, how are you etc..  Her response was obviously I'm okay.   I looked at her and she seemed anything but okay - she looked completely exhausted - more than us moms usually seem.  We are all juggling so much but she looked weary and drained.  This is not a mom who I would say is a close friend but more just someone I know because of school.   But, I still kind of pushed it a bit and said "are you sure, because you don't look that okay, you look exhausted".   She mentioned her son hadn't been sleeping well and we chatted for not more than 2 minutes when the door opened and kids came streaming out.

Guess what I received the next morning?  A thank you email from her.   Her exact words "I wanted to say thank you...thank you for asking and pressing how I was yesterday. I think we all move so quickly these days, that when someone says, "I'm okay", we take it for face value and just walk away. Just hitting the surface. Thank you for not walking away :)".   Turns out she is going through a lot with her little one being diagnosed with a sensory disorder.  I just happen to have a great friend who has 2 kids with the same disorder and has a wealth of information, support groups etc.   After chatting to each of them separately - I introduced them and they are now going to help each other out and share what they're going through.  

I'm not saying I solved a huge problem but by not just accepting the "I'm okay" response,  this mom may have one more person she can now lean on.

Sometimes being a Supermom means we have to look out for those other Supermoms as well.   Letting each other know we are not alone and sometimes taking an extra 10 seconds to really find out if someone is okay or not could make a world of difference.   It doesn't take a lot to be more mindful, more present and more in the moment!

Supermoms, do you remember how to fly

February 1, 2017

It seems like the universe is in such disarray with social media taking over our lives, kids not being able to survive without technology and we can't find any time to just have a conversation with our friends and partners.  Maybe it is that time of the year with the Holidays near or that change has become a constant in our lives.  Either way don't you just feel so drained?  I've spoken to many of you Supermoms out there and this feeling of spiraling every day and being exhausted is happening to all of us and we just take it as part of what life has become.  As you read this, I'm suggesting to you that maybe it doesn't have to feel this way.

We are Supermoms for many reasons, one of them being our ability to use that cape of ours and fly above the rest.  I think many of us just forgot how to do it.  My suggestion is if we want to fly again and feel in control then we need to start small - can you find 15 minutes each day just for you.  15 minutes to have a cup of tea and just be in the moment. 15 minutes to journal or maybe read a chapter of a book.  15 minutes to listen to some music you love.  I know some of you might be thinking right, even 15 minutes is impossible.  If it is then why not start with 5 minutes and see how it goes.

When you get to that point where your feet start to lift off the ground, where you can almost feel the relief as you envision your cape starting to flutter,  this point will not only help you with being in a better space but it gives all of us the strength to carry on.   To carry on when we sometimes feel like we can't even catch up.  You could be a single mom just trying to raise your kids as best as you can,  maybe you're at a point where you need to make a decision about your relationship or it could be deciding your next career move.  It is not easy having to do any of this or even focus on making a decision when we are in a spiral and can't find our balance and can't fly anymore.  So, give it a try and find a few minutes each day for you and see if it helps.  What do you have to lose?

Let us not forget the woman warriors that we were born to be.   If we can manage car pools, after-school sports, leading in the board room, glass ceilings at work, as well as the laundry basket that never empties then I know we can all find a way to learn how to fly again!

A Reiki Transformation - blog post from one of my clients

April 29, 2017

My healing journey with Reiki by Rubiena by Liz Barrera for Healthy Moms

“Reiki comes to you when you need it,” says Rubiena Duarte, a smiling, petite woman during my first Reiki session.

Truthfully, I was going through a challenging time. I was nearing my return date back to work after maternity leave. Although my baby was already over a year old, it felt like my body was still recovering from my second pregnancy. My pregnancies tend to be quite sensitive, requiring close monitoring and limited physical activity. Plus, I felt overwhelmed transitioning my children to daycare and a new nanny.   

Above everything else, I was broken inside. I had recently lost someone extremely important in my life and the pain of missing my loved one was like a physical heartache. I was full of sadness, anger, regret, anxiety, and loneliness. I was looking for something or anything to disrupt what felt like an ongoing cycle of sorrow.  

So, when the opportunity came up to provide a review of Reiki by Rubiena’s services, I was the first to put my hand up.   

“People often hear about Reiki and are curious about how it works, but it’s not until they really need it, that it comes to them,” says Rubiena. A gentle woman with a natural inclination for helping others, Rubiena is a qualified and registered Reiki Master who has been practising and teaching Reiki for more than eight years. Having previously spent nearly 15 years in the corporate world and working in Europe, the Middle East, Africa, and North America, Rubiena switched her career path after a life-altering experience. 

“My mom was diagnosed with a rare form of cancer and the impact it had on me was physical,” Rubiena explains. “For weeks I could barely move my body and a friend suggested I try a massage”. The massage therapist was also a Reiki practitioner who asked to try a Reiki session on Rubiena instead. “The Reiki brought out so many emotions that I was not dealing with,” Rubiena admits. “I experienced a release throughout my body and within 24 hours I felt amazing.” She was forever changed and decided to dedicate her life to studying Reiki and healing others.

According to Rubiena, Reiki is an ancient technique for reducing stress, promoting relaxation and encouraging the body into a balanced and healed state of wellbeing. It uses techniques that have been practiced for thousands of years and is a gentle, subtle, yet powerful energy healing art that involves our spiritual level, mind, and body. 

My first Reiki session begins with a brief client interview that familiarizes Rubiena to my current state of wellness. This, she explains, will help develop a Reiki treatment plan based on my individual needs.

You’d imagine that it should be awkward opening up so quickly to a stranger regarding your personal battles, but Rubiena is one of those people you feel instantly connected to. With soft brown tresses framing big, kind eyes and a caring smile, it feels like I’m chatting with an old friend. But I hold back and don’t tell her everything – simply because I am curious of what she would discover about me through Reiki alone.

After the interview portion, I find myself lying fully clothed on a massage table feeling the tension ease away from my body with the slow and steady beats of meditation music filling the small room. I close my eyes as Rubiena quietly walks around the table, drawing Reiki symbols with her hands. For the remainder of the Reiki session, not much more is said, to allow the client to achieve a fully relaxed state.  

The person performing Reiki does not touch you, but instead aims to balance your energy through movements hovering above your body. Everyone experiences Reiki differently. For me, I felt pressure (though not painful) near the top of my head. I felt warmth on my throat and chest, and tingling around my legs. I very much wanted to sleep (it was incredibly relaxing), but stayed awake to be sure I could provide an accurate review.

“I think you are grieving,” Rubiena softly tells me during the feedback portion after the Reiki session. “There is a lot of energy around your chest, almost around your heart.”

Tears prickle my eyes as it feels like she touched the part of my soul that was hurting and I had been struggling for some time to mend.

“I also sense that you feel like you don’t have a voice,” she says. “Like you want to express to someone how you are feeling, but can’t.” 

It was true. My person was gone and I could no longer confide in or talk to them. Rubiena encourages me to write a letter voicing my feelings, even though I can never deliver my message (which I actually did privately at home, and surprisingly it helped).

“Hook, line and sinker,” my husband tells me immediately after I rush to my car and tearfully call him up to eagerly to share my painful, but healing experience. “It’s like con artists Liz – people know how to read you and tell you what they think you want to know so you keep coming back for more.”

Rubiena is familiar with ‘Reiki doubters.’ “Like any alternative modality of healing there will be skeptics,” she says. “Reiki is all about your own inner energy and I am merely a vehicle to help you get that energy balanced. I never force or try to sell someone into coming for a Reiki session but once someone starts their healing sessions with me they always continue. ”

More and more studies are demonstrating the credibility of Reiki. Rubiena herself practiced Reiki at a medical clinic during her time in South Africa. 

For me, I don’t need to wait for the medical community to verify the practice of Reiki. I don’t need any more convincing of its benefits. I’ve now had three sessions with Rubiena, each one more impactful than the last. While I am nowhere near to feeling 100 per cent better and still feel the same heartbreak, it is less severe. I have found my overall Reiki experience tremendously positive. It has helped me to move forward. 

I plan to continue my sessions in the future and fully recommend Reiki by Rubiena. When someone tells me they are searching for a way to improve their health and wellness, I refer them to her. I explain, “Working with Rubiena, for the first time, it felt like something was finally healing my soul.”

Disclosure: the author received complimentary Reiki sessions in exchange for an honest review. All opinions are her own.